Yet another continuation to the perspectives of life. Starting with Branding Relations uptil the Soulmates or Work-It-Outs I believe there has been quite a difference in the way I (and a few others) perceive things and the way most other people do. Here is yet another question to ponder on...

Yes I believe that it is posible for people to eventually fall in love and feel all those wonderful feelings u get ven in love. and yet I believe that quite a few (if not a majority) of people believe they are happy coz they cant think of any "Problem" they have with marriage. If I were to typically ask a married person (especially women) if they ver happy after marriage, here is wot Id expect:

Hmmm, lets c... No MIL issues... No Late night drinking issues... I have people who respect my personal space...no recent "BAD" fights... good amount of savings... 1 kid growing well... another soon on its way... NOPE NO PROBLEMS... M HAPPY.

But not having problems does not mean one is happy!! The right questions that one shud be asking is ... Am I getting what I want? Do I have enuf time away frm my daily chores to do a little for myself? Do I have an independant view that is still important? Have I compromised so much of what I wanted that I am no longer the same person I was before marriage?

Granted that vit additional responsibilities of family and children priorities change and one finds solace in doing those daily chores. And yet one can muse themselves ven 25 years of reflection only highlights cooking food, family visits, bringing up children, and countless instances of small meaningless sacrifices that cud have made a hell of a difference in what one is today.

One is happy ven one does wot he likes to do. But satisfying oneself saying that one likes to do something only because one does not face any problems doing it is a completely different story.

PS: This has been yet another exteeemist view and I kno there r a lot of "grays" out there. But ask urself ven was the last time u did something because "YOU" impulsively wanted to... and if the answer is more than a month in the past, you shud seriously re-think ur position.

Theres a lot of heat in whats ritten but I agree that compromise should be only to an extent that it does not intrude into your personality.

This is not problem only with married people. other people also feel they are happy but keep busy all the time with office work and other work so never find time to do what they like.

I agree, lot of heat in the topic.

I feel ragsinrags is absolutely right. I have been married for 4 years and have 2 children. Until last year I was very restless. My husband John loves me a lot and I still feel we are made for each other. But time and marriage had filled a sense of emptiness in my life. And finally I answered the same very question asked in this article. I joined the library for reading, started cooking lessons and did things I had been putting off for a long time. Now I am surely more happy than before.

Well said RagsinRags. Not having a problem surely does not mean being happy.

Well Rags, you have a lot of people agreeing with you this time...
I would love to highlight and elaborate on a different angle :-)
Na ... Not today.. maybe some other day :-)

Today I would just say that Happiness like Love has no definition. Its completely an individual's perception..

Have a nice Weekend !!

Rags..i guess we had enuf discussion on this topic...
Hoping to hear something else frm you next week.

You changed your template?
Why?

true, not having problems would be more satisfaction than happiness to me..

but there are many folks who think of both as the same... and there are also many folks who do not demand much from life, who are happy with little things - alpasantoshi. they might be the luckiest of all!

:)

Everyone,
Yep, the topic is very "hot"

Anara,
Very true...

Shil,
Wud love 2 hear about the diffetent angle.. Name the time & the place :)

P,
okay

Anonymous,
Now u r talking bout lack of desires n being content vit what u got. That too is an important ingredient for "Happiness"

Hey Reshma,
Good 2 hav u here :)

Had lot of reasons to change the template:

1. Did not like the default Blogger Templates

2. Wanted to experiment with a new layout

3. Wanted a new look.

4. And Lots more of those little reasons :)

Was in general looking for a better presentation template. Liked this one surely in comparison to the last.. but can still be better :(

Templates will change again pretty soon m sure :)

HI rags !!

This template is pretty cool ....

HI rags !!

This template is pretty cool ....