Saturday, July 23, 2005
Middle-Men of Love
Quite a few days back I was watching "American Desi" at home and was competely overpowered by laughter ven this one particular dialog was delivered... It was the surd in the movie explaining to the hero y he cud not directly invite the heroine for dinner... "because all Indian girls require a go-between!!" he said... and I was laughing and laughing not at the ridiculousness of the statement but because I really found quite a lot of truth in it!
Dunno bout u guys (n girls), but right from school (ven "going around vit sum1" was the fashion) most affairs seemed to have clicked only coz tey had a good "Go-Between". The role of the go-between was (and I kno tis coz Ive been 1 for numerous occasions - a good 1 too vit a strike rate of 100%) only to advance-intimate the girl bout the date n time of the proposal. Conversations typically ver intentionally kept vague. If u told too much, u spoil the surprise and if u told to less... u risk shocking the girl resulting in unpredictable reactions.
And maybe I wud tend to agree with the Surds analysis of the situation... An adaptation to that version is:
Ven a guy tells a girl on her face that he loves her, she finds it too direct and void of Romance. Add to it the fact that she is shocked and not given time to brace herself. With a go-between, she indirectly knows the intentions and is expecting it...So if she turns up, she is already 80% for it!
Its like wot sum1 once told me.."If sum1 asks me to kiss him, Id mostly refuse n shy away - mayb even throw a tantrum at the pevertness of his thought. But if sum1 says that he wishes to feel my breath on his lips while mine graze over his... I might give it a second thought."
Dunno bout u guys (n girls), but right from school (ven "going around vit sum1" was the fashion) most affairs seemed to have clicked only coz tey had a good "Go-Between". The role of the go-between was (and I kno tis coz Ive been 1 for numerous occasions - a good 1 too vit a strike rate of 100%) only to advance-intimate the girl bout the date n time of the proposal. Conversations typically ver intentionally kept vague. If u told too much, u spoil the surprise and if u told to less... u risk shocking the girl resulting in unpredictable reactions.
And maybe I wud tend to agree with the Surds analysis of the situation... An adaptation to that version is:
Ven a guy tells a girl on her face that he loves her, she finds it too direct and void of Romance. Add to it the fact that she is shocked and not given time to brace herself. With a go-between, she indirectly knows the intentions and is expecting it...So if she turns up, she is already 80% for it!
Its like wot sum1 once told me.."If sum1 asks me to kiss him, Id mostly refuse n shy away - mayb even throw a tantrum at the pevertness of his thought. But if sum1 says that he wishes to feel my breath on his lips while mine graze over his... I might give it a second thought."
:: posted by RagsInRags, 11:40 PM
3 Comments:
I would oh so much prefer the direct approach. It is so much more naughy and exciting
never knew something like this existed. i would never trust anybody to let my girl how i feel about her. nothing like doing it yourself.
I dont think that a gobetween is always required. But it helps sometimes when speaking to the person derictly is difficult.
Nice change to your site looks.
Nice change to your site looks.
